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“What I try to empower in other people is that we have to trust what we have inside…. And we tell stories. People learn from stories. We all do.”
- Cynthia Stennis
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Article by Maureen
Latta
Photography
by A.M. Stewart
Cynthia Stennis has a knack for setting people at ease in
any setting. During her four-day visit to Center for Sustainable Change’s (CSC)
Charlotte project sites, she engaged all ages from pre-schoolers to adults in lively
discussions about the Three Principles of Mind, Consciousness and Thought.
Parents,
teachers and students who have been introduced to the Three Principles by CSC Charlotte
Program Director A.M. Stewart and other staff and volunteers had the
opportunity to engage with Stennis’s own unique approach. Stennis, who flew in
from Florida for the event, says, “What’s so unique about the Three
Principles is that you can explain it the way you understand it, and then when
another person comes they can give another point of view of how to understand
the Principles. So there is not one set way to learn about the Principles.”
Stewart says Stennis really affected the community during her visit. “She
instantly receives smiles and laughs from her just being herself. That
instantly opens people up to relaxing and being comfortable with
sharing. Cynthia radiates such incredible love, and I could tell each
person she met was touched by her.”
Stennis has been part of the CSC legacy since shortly after she
met Dr. Roger C. Mills in 1989. At that time, Stennis was the director of a YWCA
daycare located at the Modello public housing community in Dade County, Florida,
where Dr. Mills was running a Three Principles-based community project. She
attended some meetings of Modello parents who had been exposed to the Three
Principles and was amazed at the feeling of the group and at Dr. Mills’s
approach. “It wasn’t like someone trying to tell them what to think or what
they needed to do. These were parents who had the understanding that they
already had insights and common sense all the time.”
The Modello parents talked about their lives in such a way
that Stennis started looking differently at her own life and the way she was
using Thought. “I was thinking, these were the parents who were the so-called
‘low lifes’ and didn’t know any better, and they had more insights than I had! It
really, really changed the way I was thinking about myself and my kids, and I
wanted some of that.”
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| The late Dr. Roger C. Mills |
A year into the Modello project, Dr. Mills asked Stennis to
join the project as a social worker aide. She resigned her position at the
daycare and followed Dr. Mills’s instruction, which was to “build rapport” with
the residents. “That was the easiest thing I ever heard in my life,” Stennis
laughs. She got to know the families, along with their needs and goals.
When Dr. Mills wanted to take on another housing
development, she pointed him to nearby Homestead Gardens, where she lived. It
didn’t take long to build rapport with the residents. Stennis knocked on doors,
visited with the families, and asked them about their needs and goals. “When I
asked them these questions, it was like a wall came down.” They weren’t
accustomed to being asked what they wanted.
Surprisingly, they didn’t cite the community’s serious drug
problem as their number one issue. They certainly wanted to get drugs out of
their community, but even more they wanted HUD maintenance and administration
to care more about their needs and to work with them to improve the community.
They also wanted to either go back to school or get jobs.
Change happened quickly at Homestead Gardens. A key reason
for that, says Stennis, is that Modello parents were brought in to talk to
Homestead Gardens parents. If a parent had a particular issue, such as domestic
violence, she would come and talk to a parent at Homestead Gardens who had the
same issue.
Five Modello mothers took the lead at Homestead Gardens.
“You’d think you’d need half the community to change, but Roger always
instilled in us that if it’s only one or two, once they see a change they’ll
tell another person,” Stennis says. “So if it’s two, there’ll be four, and if
it’s four, there’ll be eight. So we really didn’t worry about numbers. We just
worked with the ones that really wanted to change their lives.”
The Modello/Homestead Gardens project yielded remarkable
results, including 50 percent improvements in employment levels, school
attendance, parent/school involvement, and decreased criminal activity and
school disciplinary actions. The project was documented in the book, Modello: A Story of Hope for the Inner Cityand Beyond, by Jack Pransky
| Cynthia Stennis teaches the Three Principles to a group of preschoolers at Lakewood Cooperative Preschool |
After nearly three years of working in these two
communities, Cynthia went on to travel with Dr. Mills to deliver workshops
throughout Florida and eventually all over the United States. Dr. Mills and his
daughter Ami Chen Mills-Naim founded the Center for Sustainable Change in 2004.
Over the past five years Stennis has participated in the Center’s W.K. Kellogg
Foundation-funded National Community Resiliency Project in Iowa, Mississippi
and North Carolina.
During last month’s visit to Charlotte, Stennis taught the
Three Principles in classrooms at Lakewood Preschool Cooperative and at
Thomasboro Academy. Stennis also worked with participants in Stewart’s parent
workshops. “The people are so beautiful,” Stennis says. “They are doing such a
great job there. It was a pleasure working with them.”
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| A.M. Stewart, Charlotte Program Director |
Stewart says she learned a thing or
two from watching Stennis teach: “One is to remember to point people back to
their own wisdom,” says Stewart. “It's tempting sometimes to want to answer
everyone's personal questions. But it's not my answers they need necessarily. Cynthia
turned it around time and time again to the parents and community – encouraging
them to trust and look within to access their own wisdom. Cynthia also showed
me the ease and comfort with which she truly lives 'in the flow.' That
was inspiring and uplifting to see.”
Thomasboro Academy PTA president
Natasha Sistrunk describes Stennis as “awesome.” Sistrunk has been in regular
attendance at the Three Principles parent meetings since the fall of 2012 and
says she has learned a lot about how we view life through our thoughts. Stennis
spoke from her own personal experience, Sistrunk says, and “she dealt with us
where we were. I like the way she told us, you have to truly be an advocate for
your children.”
Stennis feels the Thomasboro community is heading in the
right direction. She noticed that the Three Principles understanding is
spreading from one person to another. People are much more open to listening when they hear another parent
talk about how much better her relationship with her kids is since coming to
Three Principles workshops. Stennis says, “When they hear that their lives can
be easier than what they’re thinking, their confidence is better.”
Every
audience is different. “If I stick to an agenda I’ll never be able to
accommodate whatever they’re looking for. So I just try to keep it open and
listen for the important facts of what others want. Then you’ll be able to
engage, and your inner wisdom will let you know what to say or what to do,”
says Stennis.
“What I
try to empower in other people is that we have to trust what we have inside….
And we tell stories. People learn from stories. We all do.”







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