The 47-year-old single mom was in the kitchen making an omelette when her 11-year-old daughter, Nicole, started mouthing off to her from the living room. In a flash, Randa was face-to-face with Nicole. This kind of heated family drama would usually involve Randa raising her hand, followed by tears and recriminations. Nicole would leave for school with the sting of a slap and a dark cloud hanging over her day.
This day was different. In the 20 seconds it took for Randa to run into the living room, she remembered what she’d learned at the Three Principles-based, “Peaceful Parenting” class she had attended the week before in her neighborhood of Lakewood, in Charlotte North Carolina.
She remembered: Your thoughts create your everyday personal reality; your feelings come from this; you can have a new thought any time.
Looking into her daughter’s eyes, Randa found new words coming out of her mouth. In a quiet tone, Randa said, “Do you realize you are talking to me the way you talk to your friends?” Nicole’s defiant look crumbled. “I’m sorry,” she muttered. Randa continued, “Be mindful that I’m not your friend, and watch your tone when you’re talking to me.”
The moment was over. Randa actually felt surprise that the calm words had come so easily. The best part was, “Nicole didn’t go to school feeling like I hated her,” says Randa.
|Randa's twin daughters|
With the change in their mother, their own lives have gotten better…
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By Maureen Latta, Grants Manager, Center for Sustainable Change